Advice on relationship

Hey guyssss so I just was seeking some advice on my relationship I (F21) and my bf (M31) have been together ab 2 years almost now and live together. We have had a great relationship and are very close but have had our ups and downs. He is a great guy and super good to me he truly means well. My thing is is I’ve noticed lately that I tend to get into phases where I don’t want to be in a relationship. I’m not saying I don’t love him bc I will always love him but idk I just feel in my heart that I want to be single and live alone. I have the apt we live in in my name bc I have the better credit score and was able to get it for us (we split the bills) and he’s gotten most of the furniture that we have for us and I’ve done all of the decorations but I can see in his face that he does not like what I do w the place. He doesn’t ever rlly have a sex drive (when we first got together he did) but we only ever now he’s sex maybe once or twice a month and I don’t normally say anything to avoid an argument but it drives me crazy. I feel like we are so different but very much the same it’s complicated. We have gone through so much together but sometimes I feel like I can’t unwind and be myself around him and it tends to make me feel uncomfortable in my own home. I feel like he sees me as a project bc I’m younger idk if that makes sense… almost as if I need to learn to get to my greatest potential… which ofc I do I feel like anyone could admit that bc he learn as we grow… but idk I feel like he thinks of it in a way that would deem me immature and flawed for the time being so maybe I’ll learn from him. But the thing is I don’t want to learn everything from him bc I’m not him. Like sometimes he’ll tell me how I should dress and what I should act like and how I should present myself and most of the time it’s unnatural for me bc it’s not me. Not rlly sure how to handle it so any advice would be appreciated and thank u. Sorry for the ramble and run ons