Massive fight with husband. Don't know how to move forward

Edit - thanks everyone who took the time to make a thoughtful reply and not attack me for saying i don't want a divorce.

I wanted to give a quick update. I sat my husband down and we talked. I basically laid out for him how I felt last night (I used the line about needing a pillow that someone shared). I also really drilled in a much larger point that I will not be with someone who doesn't share my core values and if he keeps going on this path without me and without caring what I think about it, we are headed towards divorce. I never threaten divorce ever, ever. He took it seriously. We had a big talk about how I feel he is growing away from me and hiding his media consumption, and embarrassing me on Facebook and so on and so on.

At the end of the day, we agreed to both take a politics break on media. And that is more for him because he literally spends hours every day listening to podcasts, reading books, on Twitter, etc, its out of control. So we are going to pick one source on a topic that we can read separately and then come together and practice discussing it at a scheduled time after the kids are in bed and try to really understand where our values are the same and different.

I know a lot of you want to think because my husband has adopted some of these right wing beliefs that he is evil. He isn't. He listened. We talked, we are going to try.

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I love my husband deeply. This isnt going to be one of those posts where he turns out to be an abusive asshole.

When we met we were on the same page about politics. If anything he was more left leaning than me. That all changed with the blm riots in our city a few years ago and since then he's been more and more conservative.

We have a really difficult time discussing politics because he tends to focus on identity politics that bother him and I try to understand where he's coming from but at the end of the day, I'm way more interested in human rights and preventing fascism and things that he views as abstract and frankly silly. He is of the opinion that nothing bad is really happening and nothing trump is doing matters or if anything he is happy about it.

For the most part we don't discuss it. I have other friends I talk to about politics and he does his own thing, which is mostly post right wing articles about dei and trans people etc on Facebook. I quit Facebook partially because I just didn't want to see it.

I know how this sounds to other liberals, but he is my husband and father to our three young kids and I cannot do this without him. I have no desire to leave him and will not so don't even suggest it.

This all came to a head last night when I saw the headlines about shutting down the department of education. I am a teacher, and work in Ed tech, and own a non profit in the education space. To say I care about education would be a massive understatement. I have built half my life around my passion for public education. It is deeply deeply important to me.

I brought the article up to my husband and his response was to immediately bring up how "well Biden did blah blah with trans people in education". And honestly I just lost it. Yes, I want him to care. But more so I want him to care that I care. And the more angry I got the more he dug in on how it's all stupid posturing and nothing is even going to happen, and basically we can't do anything about it anyway and he isn't going to discuss it with me further.

Then he went upstairs and sent me an article about trans stuff that he is going to a protest on next weekend.

I am spiraling. Its hard to really put in to words how much this upset me and I completely shut down. I've barely spoken to him since yesterday. I'm not trying to stonewall him I just genuinely don't know what to say.

I really need to hear from others who have dealt with this kind of thing. I'm considering council ingestion. Maybe also therapy for myself. I just feel so hopeless right now. Is it even possible to maintain love and respect for someone who is so different in opinions to me? If he doesn't care about what i value, how can we be together? On top of everything else, I feel so lonely right now. I dont know what to do. :(