Friendliest social club staff?

Hey, I’ve got a bit of anxiety around social clubs and coffee shops after some experiences with ridiculously rude Amsterdam budtenders (assholes for the sake of being assholes).

I really want to avoid giving my money to anyone who isn’t welcoming, or doesn’t want me there as a tourist. Don’t want to accidentally infiltrate any locals only joints.

Can anyone recommend places that might fit this bill? And places to definitely avoid lol