Figure out we aren't compatible in the bedroom too late

I don't know what to do. We're both in our early 30s. I feel these should have been the years of passion, instead I end up taking care of my needs solo every day. I (F) have a healthy sex drive. I would like to be intimate on a daily basis. I understand life can get in the way and I can't expect action everyday but I also don't want to settle for a forced session once in 7-14 days. My partner (M) has LL. It wasn't obvious at first and when it became impossible to ignore, he gave me believable, excuses such as stress, being tired, body aches, not feeling well). At first I thought there incidents were one offs and temporary. Over 2 years of waiting to feel wanted and all the passion, I realize it's just not something he's interested in. I feel deprived of good sex. I feel unwanted and unappreciated in the bedroom. While I have always been able to cum multiple times in one session (almost no wait time), now I'd be lucky if he makes me cum 2 times in the entire year. I have considered leaving him, more times than would be considered healthy for my relationship, but I won't do it. At least not yet. Over this period we have faced more issues, so if I do leave, sex would be one of the many reasons. I do love him. I know he loves me too. He's even started taking pills to get hard, which have helped a bit, but I now just feel like my needs are a chore for him. Take a pill, bang for 10 minutes, call it good for the 10 days, repeat. Foreplay? What's that? He'll kiss me for 2 minutes or go down on me for 5 minutes mostly just to make me "wet" as opposed to taking the time to arouse me. I have needs. They're not being met. I wish there was a fix.