What do you think of the romance book genre (specifically dark romance)?

I have seen many poorly-written books on social media beind promoted that have bene critcized for romanticizing abuse. Now on one side, I have seen people say women should not be judged for what thwy read, that their desires have been policed for so long and it's just fiction. Then I have seen people say these books encourage the idea that men like that can be "domesticated", that is "redeemed", if a woman loves him enough.

I think the film "Nosferatu" came out recently, and there was discussion as to whether the relationship was predatory or romantic, or both. The lead actress I think said this,

"And there's a power play - he's trying to overtake her in this way and destroy the lives of those around her but she calls out to him and she makes the sacrifice that only she can make. She has a great deal of agency in this story that we haven't seen in iterations in the past and I think also there's a lot of themes of female oppression in this movie."

Personally, I think the word agency is often overused with female characters to negate the harm male characters cause them, but I also think there is a discussion to be had of this overall topic. Or perhaps this topic has already been discussed to death.

I don't know, I mean, I won't deny that I have read such books, and even enjoyed them at some point, but I don't think critically analyzing media that is consumed is anti-feminist,even if it is enjoyed and written by women themselves. Of course, calling women disgusting for their desires has been done since the dawn of time, but is it wrong to interrogate where these desires come from?

Also, does fiction impact reality and vice versa...I think both. Remember when teen shows would depict student/teacher relationships (be they man/girl or woman/boy) as harmless/healthy and then people started calling this out. I think "My Dark Vanessa" deals with this.