I’m over this and the kid is only 6…

I reached a point tonight where I am just over being a step-mom to my 6 year old SD. Her mom does nothing for her except be a FaceTime call when it’s convenient for her and a bi-monthly visit. DH literally jumps on me whenever I correct SD over anything. She has had no structure and is literally turning into a spoiled entitled brat. I treat both her and our own daughter the exact same when it comes to discipline. I mean, her desire to just not care has actually caused her sister to get hurt. Yet I’m still the bad guy? I’m about to have it out with DH over this because if he’s not gonna let me discipline how I see fit so it’s fair across the board, then why do I even want her living with us (we have 99.9% of the time due to the out of state bimonthly weekend visits). Let her go be a brat to her mom and her other siblings that her mom has had with her BF. I really don’t care at this point.

note, this could be the 8 month pregnancy hormones talking primarily here, but let’s be real, these are legit feelings that I bottle up because I don’t feel I can express them without being judged as a crappy person