Anyone else feel internal pressure to mention their dad around white people?

It was only me and a black coworker in the office, and "Papa Was A Rolling Stone" came on his playlist. I mentioned my dad hates that song because it is essentially the story of an absent black father. This got us both talking about our dads. We work in a very white conservative area.

Coworker mention that he always tries you sneak his dad into the conversation when working with our patients to fight stereotypes. I realized I've been doing that subconsciously for years. I often find a way to mention how much I love my Pop and what a good father he is around white people.

Its this subconscious burden that we have to defend our community and defy stereotypes when around other races. I dont think any white person could relate to this feeling.