How to treat conditioned family (without using the word unconscious here) with compassion?

Can't claim full awakening or whatever, but at least on the starting steps of being aware, however it feels very tough and difficult to stay aware when triggered by close people to you like family or old friends who are not aware of their conditioning, sometimes I try to express myself but get rejected fiercely and I fel guilty and fall again back to my conditioning too, and if I choose to remain silent I feel under pressure but at least saved from others outburst.

How can I stay progressing without hurting others feelings and not falling into egoistic patterns badly?